Self-Righteousness

It is so easy to be self-righteous

I'm not doing the dishes, I did them last time... and let them sit
I'm not bringing it up again, I've told her already... and let it fester
I'm not going to give in, you have to do what I say... and let it escalate

who are you hurting?
Yourself or them...
You're hurting already, what are you really feeling
Sad, and neglected
Angry, and ignored, unappreciated
Frustrated and disrespected

Can you do the dishes FOR YOU because you like a clean home
Can you take responsibility
Can you acknowledge your feelings and let them pass
or should someone else fix the pain?
Can you be the adult and end the circle, the back and forth
Concede and meet your own needs

Guilty as charged
Eyes getting wider, noticing it sooner
Doing what's right... for me
Regardless